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20 June 2014

I feel better. I sat down and wrote out as much as I can think of with this nightmare tenant deal from the start. With as many dates as I could get my hands on from store receipts, text message logs, emails, phone call logs on our cell phones, notice dates and rent payment receipts. I wrote the whole story in as great of detail as I could recall (which was actually much more extensive then I thought would be once I got started). I did it to have the situation down on paper to give to our attorney if needed if this does have to go through to court. Once I was done I took some time then sat back an reread what I had written and proofed. Then I read it as if I was someone else (something I was taught to do when final proofing papers) and when I was done I said- "Holy Crud, we were very clearly victims of a tenant con artist!" I can clearly see the progression as the situation folded out in a way that is normal for how a con artist operates. If I was someone else reading our story it would be clear to me that the people I was reading about had been conned. Despite the fact that we are still facing a very bad situation financially and stress of possibly going to court from this I feel so much better.

I tend to give benefit of the doubt beyond what is reasonable. I know this about myself but I can't seem to help it. I don't ever want to believe others are doing something wrong. I know that's unrealistic, but I can't seem to make myself be more realistic about the fact that there simply are bad people out there. I know it intellectually... but just never can believe it about the people I know. When I read about bad people I can believe it- I can see it when it's there in black in white. Or when a friend/family is talking to me about someone doing something I can believe it then. I just can't see it when I'm personally involved. When I read what I wrote while trying to see it as if I was someone else proofing another's writing... it let me look at the situation objectively from an outside point of view for the first time. I was nolonger me wanting to give someone I knew the benefit of the doubt, I was simply reading what had happened to another and seeing clearly the progression of taking advantage, lying and finally trying to intimidate. Emotionally I'm still me and part of me still wants to say things like, "Maybe the fridge really didn't work at his house and somehow something knocked loose during the drive to our house that fixed it." "Maybe they really were victims of a bad Landlord last time and it colored their view of this situation." "Maybe..." Intellectually I am fully convinced after reading through all the situation while looking at all the receipts, notices and dates that we were conned. I've even looked up 'tenant con artist' and found out that we aren't even remotely alone in experiencing this.

Unfortunately I also discovered that the system (basically everywhere, doesn't matter what country or state) isn't much help to landlords that find themselves victims of a con artist tenant. Often things turn out better for the con man then the landlord. Even so, I nolonger feel like this was our fault in any way except that we were too nice and naive. I am nolonger asking myself what I did wrong, what is their side of this, what should I have done different. I know that answer now is "not have helped them out". The situation still sucks and is still stressful. The financial strain is still very rough. We will get through this though. I believe without a doubt now that this was not my, our, fault. That makes me feel much better then I've felt for weeks.

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20 June 2014

I jumped on the scale this morning befor I remembered I was trying to wean myself off this thing o.0 When I saw the number I couldn't resist recording it though. I was stressed yesterday and when I'm stressed a drink water... like by the liters o.0 I keep reading how the more water you drink the less the body holds on to so I'm inclined to think this drop may be that I had less water weight then usual this morning. Not sure if that's exactly how it works.... but hey, seeing the scale inch into the mid 140s is a FANTASTIC feeling.

Today, for it seems like the first morning since we plugged in that fridge and realized it was still working perfectly the next day (according to actual thermometers), I know this situation with renting the house is only my fault in so much as being naive. I also want to thanks everyone who bore with me on last night's post while I was processing it all. I've been getting there intellectually for a bit and slowly coming to terms with it but last night the facts of the matter managed to bang their way through my thick skull and I 'get it'.

My husband still rolled his eyes at me this morning when I was musing about whether our tenant was really as bad as some of the horror stories I read (people who were obviously doing what they did on purpose) or if ours truly believed his situation somehow... ok so obviously I'm a pushover for a sob story o.0 Intellectually I've got this thing figured out and can move along as we see how it plays out. Hoping for a best case that simply sees the tenant out by August, the house not too trashed and our house on the market. Nothing more.

But 147.4lbs on the scales!? Totally awesome! Hope everyone else is having a wonderful day =)

Weight:	Lost so far:	Still to go:	Diet followed:
66.9 kg	12.1 kg	12.9 kg	Not Applicable

(2 comments) Losing 1.9 kg a Week

19 June 2014

So, it's been a week since I weighed in. I couldn't resist hopping on the scale this morning. Yesterday was such and awful day and I was pretty sure I'd done a good job with calories this week (even though I haven't been tracking calories) I was hoping the scale would give me some good news. It did =) 1lb down from 7 days ago. Pretty great news =)

Still really stressed. We talked to our bank yesterday and they are going to try and do a forbearance on the mortgage to give us time to get the squaters out of the house. The mortgage payment won't be due again until August 1st if they do. The guy said some of the laws had changed recently so he had to make sure he legally could do it, and is going to call us today. If that is possible it will be a relief. We bought the house from the bank and I know they don't want it back or to have to deal with the foreclosure legal issues (it's a community bank, not a big national one). Trevor use to work at the bank years ago and has seen them do a lot to help customers avoid foreclosure- so I know if they can help us out they will. We've had the house for 6 years, lived there for 5. We've never missed a payment or even paid late befor this year. We just ran into a bad situation and are doing our best to deal with it.

It's suppose to be a nice day in the 90s today so we are going to head out to the lake beach this afternoon. Just try to relax a little and not be so stressed.

Hope everyone else has a great day and is making progress!

Weight:	Lost so far:	Still to go:	Diet followed:
67.1 kg	11.8 kg	13.2 kg	Not Applicable

(6 comments) Losing 0.5 kg a Week

18 June 2014

We hired an attorney today to help with filing for the eviction. We tried one last time to talk to our tenant. He actually had a uhaul at the house friday, saturday and sunday. Which is why we didn't go to the attorney monday we thought they had left (they called us told us they had a uhaul and were moving). We went to clean up today and they were still there and the uhaul was gone.

I honestly think this guy is a con man and psycopath. He tries to twist everything around to make it anyone elses fault. There is no part of me that can understand this acting and way of being. We didn't even do anything wrong except be naive and give the benefit of the doubt too long. We still recognize that is our own fault and we put ourselves in the situation for someone to screw us over. No they shouldn't have, but we are responsible for it being possible. I don't get this screwing another over then trying to find someway to twist it around to be anyone elses fault. Something has to be seriously off in the person's head. Also, just saying... but this is why people never cut other's breaks. The people who would get conned.

Anyways, there is nothing more I can do from my side- it's up to the attorney to do what needs to be done legally and we just have to see what happens.

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14 June 2014

Today has been a nice day. Gorgeous weather. Went to Lowes Build and Grow and made Toothless the dragon. Washed the dog. Doing some bbg for supper. Did some yard work, gardening and made some discoveries.

We have both wild strawberries and pumpkin growing along our back fence that we didn't notice last week. I'm so excited, I bought this huge $4 pumpkin last year from a local farm in my husband's town when we went up there for the fall festival and the guy said to just dump the pumpkin in the corner of our yard when we were done with it and it would grow a new one. So we tried it. The boys had quite a lot of fun rolling the big guy up and down the hill to the back yard a few times first-

Now there is a good size pumpkin plant and I can't want to see if we get a decent pumpkin out of it =)

The only thing that really marred the day was we had renter-guy call my husband. He just wanted to know if there was any way he could stay. Renter-guy said he had the UHaul there now but he'd rather stay, he could pay more money and asking just whatever he could for us to let them stay. Trevor said there is no room to be having this conversation until he had paid us for June. The guy didn't reply to that so after several minutes Trevor just said, "No- I'm not changing my mind. We just can't afford to deal with this anymore. I'm sorry it didn't work out." The whole time I'm just like why should be believe you'd actually pay more when you paid late by at least a week every single month and haven't even paid us for this month? I'm hoping they really did have the UHaul there and are moving, but they also told both of us Monday they were coming out to pay rent and never did. So I'll believe they moved if they are gone when we check tomorrow.

Anyways, still a pretty good day and hopefully tomorrow the renters are gone and we are done with that situation.

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