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Arghhhhhhhhh! Diet going ok. In fact, I'm finding it hard to cram in my RDI, but as long as I make at least 1500 calories and my foundation veggies, I'm not going to complain.
Nope. It's the kids. I came into a little money from my father's estate. And I do mean a 'little'. Enough that I could pamper myself with a few little niceties, like a new fridge, one of those carts for the kitchen and getting my sky lights fixed in the dining room, and maybe even have enough left over for a shopping trip when I hit goal. I bought the 20 y.o. a very used car for $2500 (eventhing included) and put it in my name so he can afford the insurance. The only reason I did this was because his father had promised to get him a car and never did.
Anyhoo, not 3 days after he gets this new car, he locks the keys in the car. We have roadside assistance. No prob. He calls the agent. Last night, day 4 of having the car, he hits a deer. $507 and change to fix the car. My deductible is $500. Plus, I've got the 31 y.o. being all pissy because I got his baby brother a car and refused to give him $400 for a stupid retired police cruiser he just had to buy with the insurance money he got for wrecking his old car. And did I mention, I BOUGHT HIM THAT CAR??? I didn't pay that much for it, but I've helped him out and bailed him out so many times, I've lost count. And then he begrudges his little brother a car.
I've really had it. The 31 y.o. has issues because he suffered seizures and a coma. He honestly has the maturity of a 13 y.o. But mama is finished. I don't mind helping them out, but he's going to have to buck up, get over it, and get a STEADY job. argggggghhhhhhhhh
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1988 kcal
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Fat: 147.23g | Prot: 133.51g | Carbs: 37.64g.
Breakfast: Cocoa Roast Almonds, bacon, egg. Lunch: emerald cocoa roasted almonds, capers, olive oil & vinegar dressing, bleu cheese, tomato, green olives, anchovies, shrimp, romaine, cucumber. Dinner: Olive Oil, butter, cream, ricotta, asparagus, steak. Snacks/Other: cream, splenda. more...
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3153 kcal
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Exercise:
Walking (slow) - 3/kph - 30 minutes, Housework - 1 hour and 8 minutes, Resting - 14 hours and 22 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Lavinnia, it certainly sounds like you have your hands full. Stand strong and make sure you do something nice for yourself!! We're here for you!
03 Jun 10 by member: desifink
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Lavinnia, you can only do what you can do. Let him be ticked off, and don't fret about it. Tell him you will pray for him, but don't feel guilty because you did everything you culd and it wasn't enough. As for the baby boy, you got him the car, now he needs to get his car fixed himself. Hitting a deer is not his fault, but you cannot be expected to take care of the bill. Sorry that you are having these issues right now, but it will get better. I will say some prayers for all of you. Stand tough, it is the best thing you can do for your children. ANd believe me I know how tough that can be. I have been vey lucky that my 2 boys don;t expect me to bail them out. But it is soo hard when I see them struggling, not to step in and take over. LOL It is the momma in me!! Good luck Lavinnia, and remember you are doing the right thing!
03 Jun 10 by member: ctlss
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Sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Not sure if you have ever heard this one, but sometimes Tough Love is needed. Children have it in their minds that if they don't get the same benefits as others do that something is wrong. I have family that act this very way and it's not fair to anyone. Hang tough sweetie.
03 Jun 10 by member: kmartin
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thanks for the encouragement everyone! I'm feeling better about it all this afternoon. 20 y.o. is getting half the money to fix his car from his dad. I can front him the other half. Oldest is just going to have to grow up. I still have another one who will be 18 in August and a senior in high school next year. His dad has promised him a car, too. But ya know who's going to have to do it. <<<sigh>>> Darnit, Stephanie Ward suggested a cruise in about a year, and I am going to do my best to be able to GO. lol
03 Jun 10 by member: Lavinnia
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Lavinnia, it's just like I've been saying. Kids were SO much easier when you could cage 'em up in playpens :D
03 Jun 10 by member: RubyRedSox
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lmao...you got that right, Ruby. In fact, they were even easier when they were still in the oven. lol
03 Jun 10 by member: Lavinnia
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I never understood the sibling resentment thing. If my mom was able to buy things for my sisters she couldn't afford to with me I was really glad. I was the oldest and when I moved out, married, and got a FT job I tried to do all I could for my sisters and step brothers. I took them to Six Flags, bought them clothes, took them out to eat. I love them so I can't understand the jealousy thing. I am sorry your oldest is having problems with that. That is too bad about the deer. Is the car drivable? If he has a job then maybe he can wait to get it fixed until he saves the money. Or maybe if you can afford to you can loan it to him and he can pay you back. I drive 45 miles to work each day through the country and see so many deer. I am so thankful I haven't hit one. You know they make a thing you can put on your car that makes a whistling noise as you drive that will alert the deer to you coming. My aunt hit like 3 deer and she put one on her van after that. She didn't hit anymore deer after that.
04 Jun 10 by member: amanda123
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Oh my......I have enough trouble taking care of myself....kids sound scary. Oh my Vinni, you have really been going though but always remember when you are going thru or even when you are in IT......the sun will shine again and you have to come thru it eventually. This Too Shall Pass.
I better hear about a mani/pedi or a cute goal outfit or something in the next few days because you need to spend something on yourself. Hair cut, facial something Miss Lady. You have to take care of you too.
04 Jun 10 by member: stephanie.cathey
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I agree - do something to take care of you and don't worry about the older one's jealousy - he can just get over it. Pray for him and let it go. I agree the younger one should help pay for the damage if he is able. Tough love is important for kids.
04 Jun 10 by member: Multiplicity1
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It is hard ,Vinny,but they can't grow if we don't let them take care of their own problems. You have to take care of you. The suggestions from Stephanie sound great!
04 Jun 10 by member: candyann
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I love all you ladies. Each and every one. Thanks so much for the kind words. It is getting better already. I only have to come up with half of the damages on the car. My X told Aaron he'd give him the other half. He can pay us back when he can. The oldest is adjusting, but he honestly does have some brain damage that has made him this way. As for the youngest, he just watches the other two and shakes his head. He made honor roll this semester. I am so proud of him.
I will come through this and there are better days ahead. Thanks for being there.
05 Jun 10 by member: Lavinnia
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