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Doing well and feeling great. However, I'm starting to think that my weight isn't the issue with my husband. :( I was this weight when we met, when we dated and when we married. Just a totally different person now and he blames my weight. Makes me feel kinda bad. Whatever the problem it;s his issue not mine. I'm doing this for me and my daughter. Hope he figures it out, cause I'm far too content with out the emotional abuse and the gaping void that has grown between us. I am comfortable in my own skin no matter what size I am. Someone that loves me should too. Anyway, was just wanting to vent and not feel so lonely for a minute. :)
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975 kcal
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Fat: 52.31g | Prot: 102.90g | Carbs: 19.99g.
Lunch: sliced cheddarcheese, ground beef patty, salad. Dinner: cauliflower, chicken breast baked. Snacks/Other: slice yellow cheese, energy drink low carb. more...
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3150 kcal
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Exercise:
Standing - 4 hours, Housework - 1 hour, Walking (slow) - 3/kph - 1 hour, Desk Work - 1 hour, Resting - 9 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Sometimes men can feel threatened with a spouse's efforts to lose weight and get in shape, and may subconsciously attempt to sabotage your efforts. Try to keep that in mind, and like you said: remember that you're doing this for YOUR well-being, and for your daughter! :) And always remember you'll have lots of support here, too! <e-Hugz>
26 Mar 12 by member: Roobert
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Oops, perhaps I should rephrase that, it sounded kinda sexist, lol! ANY spouse can sometimes feel threatened when their partner embarks on a fitness journey, not just men... But you know what I meant :)
26 Mar 12 by member: Roobert
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lol.We had gotten in an argument months ago about his declineing affection and he said "maybe I don't want a wife that weighs almost as much as me" That's the first I heard about it. :( But you could be right. Thank you. (((hugs))))
26 Mar 12 by member: poetessmisty
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It is hard to withstand emotional abuse....just keep remembering why you are losing weight...and who knows, the end result may be more wonderful than you ever imagined. Spouses or significant others sometimes say things because they don't really know what to say...stress, feeling threatened, changes, etc. often make all of us think and say things that we would never do under normal circumstances. We all support you no matter what...this is a "safe" place for thoughts, words, and actions.
26 Mar 12 by member: 2227Gwen
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Thank you. I'm gonna try to make this work but theres more to it. He frequently emails women on craigslist casual encounters. I know this is a weight loss site not a personal problem site. lol I'll shut up now.
26 Mar 12 by member: poetessmisty
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No! Don't "shut up", that doesn't make the problem go away, and can do YOU more damage emotionally. We're here to help and listen, and occasionally offer advice where we can - kinda like free group therapy, lol. The thing you said about craigslist casual encounters has me very worried for YOUR physical well-being! That old saying about "you sleep with EVERYONE your partner has ever slept with" scares me for your sake... PLEASE be very very careful in your situation, and consider that you are worth far more than that kind of abusive treatment... I'm SO sorry to hear about this :(
26 Mar 12 by member: Roobert
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I've been there, minus the child which makes just up and leaving more difficult. You dont need that in your life, it will just bring you down. My situation also involved physical abuse...I (not so) kindly refer to him as Satan now. He made me feel so fat and I was 3 sizes smaller than I am now. That kind of treatment will mess with your mind bad! It took me a while to get 'de-programmed'. Be strong, love yourself, and if you ever need someone to vent to I'm here tracking my food ever few hours ;-)
26 Mar 12 by member: codechick
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Aw thank you codechick. I was in a physically abusive relationship too years ago. Broke that cycle. He's not phyxically abusive, but it sure does hurt.
26 Mar 12 by member: poetessmisty
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Of course it hurts!! You don't deserve that. I had a simliar situation and the stress of that relationship caused a lot of my weigh gain. You have to focus on you. If he is straying then something has to give at some point and it should not be you that has to sacrifice anything (happiness and health) Sometimes its good to get advice from people you don't know since they aren't biased. Never feel like you can't talk on here :)
26 Mar 12 by member: arreese72
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26 Mar 12 by member: poetessmisty
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