I love Daria. I have the complete series on DVD. I think my favorite episode is when Daria babysits those kids ... "Hitler ate chocolate"... HAHAHAH. Rebound guy - Where is he going? I was way too attached to my rebound guy - I think it's because you put all the feelings from your old relationship onto the rebound, confusing everything and mashing it up. My best advice is don't get too attached to the rebound guy. I still get anxious thinking about my rebound guy and still wonder if he'll ever call me and how I will react. Hope you have a great time tonight, and please, blog about it tomorrow.
29 Sep 11 by member: healthy_allie
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Daria is awesome! I have the series on DVD as well. So good! Rebound guy... I know I've gotten way too attached to him recently but after he blew me off last weekend I readjusted my mindset a bit. I probably have higher expectations than I should because of my last relationship (clingy guy). Because this guy is moving to Chi-town tomorrow to train to teach english abroad I haven't been thinking of the future. First Chicago, then Japan? Yeah, distance is not my thing. He's cool and if he was staying around I'm 100% positive that I would be freaking out. I will let you know how tonight goes down and if him and I make any plans. :D
29 Sep 11 by member: kziemianski
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I am telling you - rebound guys are the exact opposite of what you've dated in the past - causing for weird types of attachment issues. I wish it were easier with time... I cut my rebounder off and again, I was just daydreaming about him at my work desk. He's oh so wrong for me and oh such a player, but I can't help but think of him from time to time and what went wrong. My best advice for you is to date someone else and make it blatantly obvious to this guy. He will flip if he actually likes you and if he doesn't, time to move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea girl.
29 Sep 11 by member: healthy_allie
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Perhaps if you are attached its not really a rebound... just sayin
29 Sep 11 by member: pixidaisy
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pixi I disagree on the if you are attached he might not be a rebound. I seem to get attached to rebound guys but I think I just get attached to them because I am trying to fill the spot of the guy I broke up with. Its like just having someone to fill the place of the ex. I always seem to feel attached to the rebound guy and then start to realize the rebound isnt that great and start finding all sorts of things I dont like about rebound guys.
29 Sep 11 by member: allieaac
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Actually he's pretty much exactly what I've dated in the past. LOL. I think that's why I've reset myself a little. He's a lot like me and I know that he likes me. But we've both from the beginning known that he was moving and this wouldn't be anything serious. I would love to see him again when he moves back to the states because I think he's a cool guy, whether or not we would date. I totally agree that sometimes we get attached to rebounds so quickly because you're in relationship mode already but I also agree with Pixi that sometimes it goes deeper than that. Generally in a breakup you realize what you want/need in a person and if you seek that out in your rebound than maybe your rebound guy is more than that. Nothing says rebounds can't be the love of your life - you just have to be careful about what you're doing.
29 Sep 11 by member: kziemianski
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I use to love watching Daria lol good luck with the rebounder...heh I've had like no emotion concerning men, dating, or sex...just kinda a black hole lol Had something happen recently that should have upset me...and it didn't, like I actually tried crying, nope nothing. I dunno what the problem is...kinda wish I was interested in a rebound like you ladies were! Hope you have a great weekend Karen!
29 Sep 11 by member: NoChubbyMom
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That is so true too! Karen, I am a firm believe in if it's meant to be, it will work itself out in the end. Maybe once this dude comes back from Japan he will realize he wants to be with you and it all will workout. Until then, stay in touch via skype and keep invovled if you aren't ready to completely cut the ties.
29 Sep 11 by member: healthy_allie
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Well not all rebounds are just rebounds. I guess maybe as we get older rebounds become less reboundish lol
29 Sep 11 by member: allieaac
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I agree - no one says you can't make a relationship work with rebounds. Just sometimes they are something that you need to get out of your system.
29 Sep 11 by member: healthy_allie
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