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Sad to say that now that I have lost almost 40 lbs. I am having marriage problems because my husband thinks that because i have lost weight that this will motivate me to cheat on him. Being skinny does not bring more guys,when i was fatter i would still get hit on, what is wrong with being thin, I just want to feel better about myself. This really makes me sad. It makes me feel really irritated as well. What happened to self confidence? Why does weight have to be an issue? What should I do? My marriage is falling apart,but if this continues I will just have to make a hard choice and it will be me. No more thinking about others, it is time to think about me. I want to feel healthy and I will do it, no matter what the consequenses.
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458 kcal
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Fat: 12.61g | Prot: 68.70g | Carbs: 12.54g.
Breakfast: milk 2%, eggs, eggs, jennie-o turkey breast. Lunch: raw chicken breast. more...
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Hi. I am sorry for the problems you are having. What it amounts to is his self-esteem. (My husband did this when I went to college for about 2 years, and is now he is wanting me to get my PhD). I know its hard, but try to be reassuring and supportive of his fear of loosing you. As he gains confidence that this won't happen, he will settle down. But, this is all of course, assuming that this is the right issue and not a symptom. Good luck and if you need to vent...you can email me. Karre
15 Aug 11 by member: Karre
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I can relate! I decided that I was losing weight for my own health, and it had nothing to do with sex appeal or attractiveness. Reassure him (it's his self-confidence, NOT yours) that you're not leaving, and that he'll love the healthier you even more! Explain that you want more energy for the, um...fun stuff. If he is heavy too, ask him for help and support...if he tries to keep you on track, he'll start noticing what he eats as well and maybe join the bandwagon! Good luck, I hope he comes around!
15 Aug 11 by member: amberism1011gmail.com
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Thanks ladies. Amberism you really made me laugh. These are really great thought. He doesn't have weight issues but I guess his confidense level must be really low for him to feel this way. This is something I have said before, but I guess it will take time for him to realize it. The other issue I am having is that one of his friends girl lost all of her baby fat and I guess she cheated. But I just say he needs to realize I am not his friends girl. But things like this will just pull me away until he learns to trust me. It is just hard to lose the trust of your other half without any motives. Thabk you all. I guess we will need to go to marriage counseling to get this under control.
15 Aug 11 by member: Sarah Noya
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