kmartdollie's Journal, 20 Jan 22

is she actually in keto? there are test strips that will tell you. I ask because my wife is on keto and I tried it with her once. I ate, or I thought I was eating, like I was supposed to. After a week I still was not in ketosis.. long story short. if your friend is just eating what she thinks she's supposed to eat, not tracking or making sure she's actually in keto then she'll never lose weight. Also, have you talked to your friend about her comments? it may help 

I heard a wise man say the best way to silence your critics is just succeed. negativity sucks and I understand that. but plan your work work your plan and stay the course. you'll do great.  

i believe your "friend" is actually reflecting.. it sounds like everything you mentioned is actually about herself. you are on a good path towards your goal, keep focused on yourself, if anything, all those negative words will push u along to reach your goals. eventually, she will breakdown, cry and wish she was as determined as you are..  

If she is truly a good friend you guys will get through this. She is probably frustrated that she was trying and didn't lose weight so she is projecting it on you. ( not that it makes it ok..) You could talk to her about it but know you may not get a positive response. It's a tough decision...hang in there and I'm proud of your weight loss! 

it took me over 7 years.. keep the fight 👍👍👍👍 

redirect. see who can walk faster, longer, lift more weights or finish more activity.  

Tell your friend that Keto doesn't work for everyone. Congrats on the 12 lbs lost, I'd LOVE to lose 12 lbs! I would talk to her about the catty comments. Let her know how they make her feel. It's possible that she just doesn't realize; of course it's also possible that she DOES. Only one way to find out. 

I didn’t do keto have dropped 197 pounds just did me💯💯💯 

Believe me, I am the friend that diets don't work for. You need to separate her from your diet. She is jealous, isn't figuring it out, and won't figure it out. My BFF has lost much more than I have and she talks about it when I ask, but I am not as successful as she it. The difference between your friend and me, though, is I am really trying to find a way that works for me and I exercise with my BFF a few times a week so we do have that in common. I think just don't make a big deal about it - keep your resolve for you not just to show your friend that she is a jerk and she might be inspired too! 

Yes, she is jealous and, whether consciously or unconsciously, putting you down to make herself feel better. I would look for the opportunity to say something like 'Dieting is so frustrating, I think we really need to be supportive of each other. Thanks for sharing (a recipe, an exercise tip, something, anything to make her feel good)' then the next time she says something negative, say "oh, I thought we agreed we were going to be supportive'. I have a sister in law that was always going on about how her husband and her doctor wanted her to lose weight, it was all she ever wanted to talk about with me and she was, you guessed it, skinny as can be. Rather than go play into her ego while mine was being bruised, I finally started suggesting she change doctors because hers obviously didn't know what a healthy body looked like and to think seriously about why her husband wanted her to be as scrawny as a teenage girl. She was so shocked, she's never bought it up again. I was a little more diplomatic that that, but you get the idea.  

I actually GAINED weight on Keto - I agree it doesn’t work for everyone. I lost nearly 30 pounds in 10 months when I stopped eating “Keto” and followed a balanced diet and kept my daily calorie budget under 1800 calories a day. Focus on what works for YOU. 

Also, she obviously isn't doing Keto right or it isn't the right diet for her body. My guess is she is not being honest with herself. Maybe, when she's being negative, gently suggest she start keeping/sharing her food diary or something like that that will force her to be more accountable.  

Ignored. She clearly has no idea what she is doing or about how fat is lost. You won't have a belly forever. Fat eventually comes off if you are in a deficit long enough. If she has supposedly been following a diet for weight loss for a year with no progress, she doesn't understand that she needs to be in a deficit and probably gorges on fat while shunning fruit and potatoes. Ignore her, make progress, and find better people to hang out with if she shows no signs of change.  

A good friend will support you. The fact that she is making negative comments to you shows that perhaps she is a little jealous at the fact that you are indeed losing weight. You need to focus on you. You need to do what’s best for you. Don’t let negative comments get you down. You are losing weight and you appear to be doing it in a very healthy way. You go girl! 

Doing keto right is both simple and can be hard. Eating under 20 gms of carbs means giving up many foods. It works if you can work it. Veggies, eggs and meat for me. If you want to eat a wider variety of foods you have to count calories - or learn to eat smaller portions. In any case, if she's been doing it for a year, she hasn't seriously sought out effective eating patterns. She needs to reassess - as we all do from time to time- and learn what works better for her. Send her to dietdoctor.com - they are the industry standard for keto education. Many good videos and articles there. That is if she seriously wants to figure it out. 

I know people like this who are so miserable they cannot stand to see you happier and more successful. That means the happier and more successful you are the worse it makes them feel and therefore the worse they will treat you as a result of you making them feel worse if that makes any sense. I heard a phrase in a song recently and it finally opened my eyes. Listen to Kacey Musgraves song called Biscuits and especially the phrase "pouring salt in my sugar won't make yours any sweeter". Sharing personal success with people like this is sometimes more painful than its worth! Congratulations for losing weight through the holidays too! You sound very dedicated and you have one more cheerleader in me! 

Whatever the reason, subconscious or not , you need to tell her how it makes you feel and that she needs to stop. Real best friends want to be called on their B.S. If she does not respect your boundaries, she isn't a friend to you.  

Perhaps you should communicate how it makes you feel with her. And give her an opportunity to correct her behavior. If she does not I would walk away. This journey is tough as it is,anyone who makes you feel less than should be allowed to have your energy. Good luck, keep your head up and moving forward 

Best friends want the BEST for you!! 

Sounds like she is a little jealous of you! Just use it like you're doing to motivate you!