kjacks82's Journal, 20 Jan 14

My husband and kids love me how I am too... but that isn't good enough for me. I have to be happy with me first. The older I get the more important it is to me. So you have company with this.  

You have to do what makes you happy. If you are not happy, then no one in the family will be. it rubs off. Your family will love you no matter what. In the long run if you are not healthy it brings you down in many different ways. Keep up the good work and stay happy (it is an attitude). 

I have a similar dilemma but I want to be comfortable in my skin, not just dealing with it. My husband and kids say the same but I want to be able to say thank you full heartedly when they say I'm beautiful not just smile and say thanks. I have been contemplating the reserves as well, but that's a few years down the road and I'm hesitant. One challenge at a time.  

Yes it's worth it. What others think doesn't matter. It's about what you think and feel about yourself and your health. As you age, you will start gaining some weight each year. So it's important to get it under control now and develop healthy habits you can take in to the future. Developing health habits for your kids is so important too. If you aren't happy, then do something. You would be surprised at how much your mental and physical well being effects your family. You can do it! 

Thank you everyone! I have been stuck in a rut for a while and I'm still struggling to get out of it. I was talking with a friend yesterday about kids and I said how am I supposed to tell my kids they need to be happy with who they are when I can't follow my own advice? Poofkiss - I talked to a recruiter last year and wasn't ready then but I feel I am now but I'm not confident about passing the fitness test. I wish I could wait a little as well, but I'm running out of time to go to officer school because they only accept until the age of 34 and I'll be 32 this summer. I want to be happy with who I am but some days I feel it's not worth the struggle. I need to jump back on that horse and ride it all the way to my goal. Hopefully I will find the drive to do just that. 

It ABSOLUTELY matters what you think! Your husband and kids, being the loving supporters that they are - and thank goodness they are! - would and will love you no matter what. But it is important to feel good in your own skin. When people tell me I "don't need to lose weight" I smile, thank them and explain that I don't FEEL GOOD at this weight. I can't wait until I can pick literally anything out of my closet - not just the 'chubby side' - and know it will fit and look good. Hang in there! YOU CAN DO IT!