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I swear, just when I start thinking there might be some progress with the hubby and I, I screw it up!! I got home from my GS trip this morning and found out that he didn't stay here with the other kids like he said he was going to- instead, he had his sister stay, which they all hate. So I was mad! I called both of his phones, which he chose not to answer, so then I called his work. They got ahold of him and told him to call me-- but when he did, he was pissed! He hates for me to call anyone. Then I just started in on him about not being here- he says it's not comfortable for him to be here, so that's why he didn't stay. Funny-- I know the feeling, but don't have a choice! All of our stuff is here-- all of our life, our memories, etc. I told him I have to live with it everyday and I wasn't the one who made the choice to go through this seperation! Anyway, it wasn't pretty, and I probably just set this whole thing back again. At some point, I WILL get some control over myself to be able to leave him alone and let him get figured out whatever is going on. I will also get to the point of feeling like no matter what, I will be okay. I no doubt want him to come home, but only if home is where he wants to be. Won't do us any good for him to come home and not be happy.....
Anyway, had a good day with GS yesterday-- They were staying at a lodge that I used to go to with my troop as a kid, so it brought back a lot of old memories. I even found a book there that had a reference to bT from when she was a kid and had gone there! Tried to go letterboxing, but none of the clues were very good, so didn't end up finding any. That might be a hobby for me to look into...
Going to hit a WW meeting tonigt at 4:45 to get my weigh in. I'll record later.
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You have every right to be angry with him Kat. No matter how uncomfortable he feels at the home right now...he has 4 children to think about. Just because it isn't all happy happy right now on the home front, doesn't mean he can pick and choose what comfortable situation he can be a part of. Don't do that to yourself. Glad to hear that you were able to relive some old memories! always fun =) Good luck tonight with your weigh in!
23 Jun 08 by member: Cheeks
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Oh wow, HE wasn't feel comfortable, so HE had to leave - what about the CHILDREN, did he even once concider how THEY felt? Just like a man to only think of himself. DH and I are still together, and I do love him very much, but even he gets like this sometimes. Its like, you were there enjoying MAKING the kids, now be here to enjoy them! He will come home from being at work all day, and go sit in the other room away from where the kids are as they scream and cry that they want him. He just gets annoyed because they are being loud - HELLO!!! THEY WANT YOU!!! Some men need to realize that its not longer about them, that you are not HIS mommy, and that HE is no longer the child. Just send him over here if you want him straighted out!!! LOL!
23 Jun 08 by member: MomofTwoGirls
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PS - Sorry if I sounded harsh, it just really bothers me when a parent is selfish. Its no longer about us, its all about the children. Sorry!
23 Jun 08 by member: MomofTwoGirls
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He sounds kind of passive-aggressive to me. Why couldn't he tell you he didn't want to stay at the house, instead of changing the plan AFTER you had left? Don't blame yourself, Kat. He is the one who is making this all so painful. It's not YOUR fault. You can't call? He doesn't answer? Definitely, he is the one playing games here. If he really wanted to come home he would not be behaving this way, don't you think?
23 Jun 08 by member: Girl_Illa
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Wow!! lol Goose bump city! I need to know what book and what reference!! lol ?? I'm so sorry things are so rough... but you are right, they WILL get better and you will find a way to find solace. You keep your head high and keep telling yourself that NO, you did NOT cause or CHOSE this. You have every right to be angry about it, too. If he doesn't like it, then it's him who needs to fix it. I know, that's easy to say, but given time, things will settle. Tell him to just be honest with you, it's only fair, but if he's not going to be there when he says he is, that's lying, and you don't have time for that. How cool that you found that book... racking my brains trying to think of what it could have been! lol :) lylas xoxo
23 Jun 08 by member: bullytrouble
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Try to hang in there girl. That's all I can say. I'm so sorry you're going through this rough time. I'm praying for you!
24 Jun 08 by member: chefchristabug
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